6.12.2007

Real Simple Interview


What's the one thing about your younger life that you would like to reclaim? I used to be an unsinkable optimist. I thought the best about every situation and every person. Life has beaten too much reality into me, and my once shiny optimism has become a bit calloused.

What are you really good at? Musical expression--all music tells a story if you let it. I can be a really good listener when I don't have Gracie around distracting me. I like to think that I have a certain flare for literary analysis.

Before I die, I'd like too... See our children have the same opportunities that I've had. I really have had an amazing go of life, and know that I have been blessed with so many extraordinary experiences. They've all been things that I've wanted to do, and I would love for our children to be able to dream big and achieve big.

John, Paul, George, or Ringo? Paul to look at and listen to. Although Ringo actually composed some of my favorites.

Who was your favorite teacher and why? Dr. Valentine, retired BYU literature professor. I took a short stories class from him just before my mission. In his class I really learned to read literature as life and vice versa. And he taught me another important lesson. We had this group presentation at the end of the semester that was worth 1/3 of our grade. I really worked hard in his class because I loved it so much, and was the annoying nerd who sits in front and never tires of commenting. Well, my group was less than enthusiastic about our assignment. We split the presentation up into timed segments and everyone had their topic to which their comments would be limited. In our final meeting, each member briefly went over what he/she would present. I was to speak at the end, addressing the symbols of the story, and pulling every one's comments together. Apparently, the group thought what I had to say was pretty great, because when the actual presentation came around, disaster ensued. Not only did my group mates lift all my material, they also took up all the time. We were the last presentation of the last class period before the final. I had exactly 45 seconds before the bell rang to earn 30% of my grade. Flustered and hurt I took the podium and made two or three underwhelming comments. The bell rang, everyone bustled out of the classroom. I gathered my things and was fighting desperately not to cry. Dr. Valentine approached me and shook my hand. I started to speak, I didn't know what to say. He sagely took my hand and told me that he was familiar with my papers, my tests, my work, and my participation with my group. He told me not to worry about my score for the presentation or my grade in the class. He turned and left. Later, when I completed my final for his class, I tucked a tear-stained thank you card into my blue book. I learned so much from him.

I wish I could ignore... my constant craving for Apple Jacks. I guess there are worse things to crave, but I could seriously munch on this cereal (with ice cold soy milk, of course) all day long.

The big decision I'm currently wrestling with is... How to best help my husband with his big decision. We are currently faced with a lot of different opportunities for his next position at Honeywell. These other jobs are all over the country. There is a lot to consider, but Cori knows better what will be best for his career. I'm trying to be as helpful as possible.

6.11.2007

not on the list

There are a couple of books I've read this year that I would like to not recommend. Most recently, I finished The Time Traveler's Wife by Audrey Niffenegger. I cannot deny that it was hard to put down. The story is a fascinating idea, and Niffenegger masterfully pulls it off. It jumps all over the place, but every piece fits together to create a picture of a most unique love story that redemptively conquers all. So, why not give it my stamp of recommendation? There is quite a bit of language and s*xuality as well as a completely casual attitude towards drug use and other, shall we say, unlawful behavior. I appreciate that all these things were necessary to the plot. The protagonist's s*x drive is symptomatic of the physical condition which controls his time traveling. And it practically becomes a third member in his relationship with the heroine. Likewise, anytime the protagonist time travels, he arrives at his destination without anything but his physical self; no clothes, no jewelry, not even a filling. Consequently, he becomes accustomed to stealing and occasionally beating people up for their clothing. While the story was a singular and fascinating ride, I can't argue in good conscience that it was worth muddling through all the other stuff. It isn't the kind of book that you can plan on just flipping past the bad parts, because the bad parts are purposefully woven too tightly with the rest.

A little while ago, I treated myself to a Sue Monk Kidd double feature. I bought both The Secret Life of Bees, and The Mermaid Chair on the same day. I read The Secret Life first, and loved it. The Mermaid Chair left a bad taste in my mind. Again, it is a masterfully crafted narrative. The characters are real and relative. Disappointment set in as the plot began swirling with infidelity, selfishness, and a couple of pages that I could have done without. I feel that Kidd deals realistically with all the consequences of her protagonist's choices. And there is an important warning--particularly to stay-at-home moms like myself--who have sacrificed personal aspirations for other life roll responsibilities. But again, I can't argue in good conscience that it is worth muddling through all the bad stuff to enjoy the good.

The humanities student inside can academically account for the presence of the bad aspects of these novels. I know the muck isn't there for muck's sake alone. It serves a purpose that goes beyond cheap Soap Opera tactics. The sad truth is that this junk is part of the world we are surrounded by. But this doesn't change the fact that it is still muck. Life is too short, and there are too many other amazing books out there.

6.10.2007

Sunday School

This week, I learned (or relearned):
  • After working for weeks to teach Gracie to say 'please' (and finally succeeding), that it would take only moments for her to learn how to say 'mine!' with great emphasis.
  • Cleanliness is close to Godliness. Gracie and I spent the whole week while Cori was in NYC cleaning out our apartment. Closets, cabinets, and cupboards, are all sorted, cleaned and organized. This was done in an attempt to exert some control over our current moving limbo. We may not know the when or where about our move, but we could be ready tomorrow... In the meantime, the apartment is a little piece of heaven for me.
  • lds.org is such a great scripture study tool. I've started doing my study during Gracie's nap time--the morning study schedule wasn't happening, and I'm too dead tired at night. I went onto the website to look up the Gospel Doctrine lesson, and just started reading it from the site. Soon, I was clicking my way around links and flipping effortlessly from the New Testament, to the Pearl of Great Price. I read a couple articles pertinent to the lesson, and even listened to a conference address. Its given me something new to look forward to in my scripture study.
  • A couple of gems from my studies this week--all to do with signs of the Savior's coming, the last days, and the many perils that will necessarily be a part:
    “But where do we find hope in the midst of such turmoil and catastrophe? Quite simply, our one hope for spiritual safety during these turbulent times is to turn our minds and our hearts to Jesus Christ. … Armed with the shield of faith, we can overcome many of our daily challenges and overpower our greatest weaknesses and fears, knowing that if we do our best to keep the commandments of God, come what may, we will be all right” (in Conference Report, Oct. 1992, 41–43; or Ensign, Nov. 1992, 31–32). Doctrine and Covenants 45:34-35 And now, when I the Lord had spoken these words unto my disciples, they were troubled. And I said unto them: Be not troubled, for, when all these things shall come to pass, ye may know that the promises which have been made unto you shall be fulfilled.

6.06.2007

Meet Walter and Terrible

So, I've really been missing the Turbo Kickboxing class at my gym. At my first doctor's appointment with this pregnancy, the Doctor told me it was good to exercise, but that I needed to keep my heart rate at or below 140 beats per minute (140 ='s not very much work. You should be able to hold a conversation without loosing your breath). So I tried to tailor the workout down. I monitored my bpm, and after a few tries, finally relinquished myself to an exercise regime outside of the aerobics room. Weights, aerobic aparati, and old men. Ahhh, the old stomping ground.

Seriously, 60% of the members that go to the gym the mornings I'm there are old men. At first it was a little alarming to me. But now I find it charming. For example, there's the man who comes in silk Hawaiian print shirts and lifts wearing gardening gloves. Leather gardening gloves! It is so cute. Most of them are very social, and I've been able to get to know a few.

Walter was the first. He and I hit it off during my first weeks at the gym last summer. He has been going to this gym every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for the last 15 years, and can count on 1 hand the number of days he has missed. An interesting thing to note about Walter's gym attendance is that he never touches any of the equipment. Walter comes to the gym to exercise one thing, and one thing only--his mouth. He admitted this to me early on, and has stayed true to his word. He comes, makes his social rounds, walks certain ladies out to their cars, and takes obligatory drinks from the water fountain. He is shorter than I, has the bluest eyes I've ever seen and is always smiling. Walter was a high ranking pilot in the Marines like my Grandfather. He and I usually chat about the same things.... His grandkids, his work at the Elk's Lodge, Gracie, and now my pregnancy. Charming.

This leaves Mr. Terrible. He's rather tall, younger than Walt, and a notorious flirt. I don't actually know his real name, nor does he know mine. We started a little banter via Walter's company. This was our script for the first couple of weeks:

Terrible: Hey there.
Me: Hiya, how are you this morning?
Terrible: Oh, just terrible.
Me: I can't believe that for a minute.
Terrible: Just making sure you're paying attention... How are you today?
Me: Fantastic, thank you very much.

After a while, we abbreviated our banter to a simple "Hello Terrible, how are you?" "Alright Fantastic, how about yourself?"

The other day, he approached me at the hip abductor.

"So, tell me what's going on here," he demanded, gesturing vaguely in my direction.

"What? Were you waiting for this machine? Did I cut?"

"No, I mean this." This time he gestured directly at my pregnant tummy.

Apparently, he had been assuming the wrong things regarding my age and marital status and had been working up the courage to say something about my 'situation'. After I assured him that I was almost 27, very happily married, and that this was, in fact, our second child the tension lifted. In turn, he intimated to me that he misses his own grandson, but that he and his girlfriend (so funny to hear a 60+ year old man say that word) find consolation living three months out of the year on Maui. Pretty rough. Cori, who really doesn't think very highly about all these older men, actually told me to work this angle a little.

I still miss TKB. I can see the class as I toil on the stationary bikes and elliptical machines (all the time carefully watching my heart rate). They got a new routine last week. I really miss it. But there's good company to be had on the floor.

Wordless Wednesday: Then and Now, June 06-07



6.05.2007

The Funival

Enthusiastically named by a three-year-old in our ward.

Palos Verdes hosted a big fair this weekend. We spent a few hours there Saturday evening. We could have left Gracie at the petting zoo and come back for her the next morning. She loves everything animal. So between the petting zoo, the carousel, and the yummy carnival food (lets see... a soft serve ice cream cone, a lemon and sugar crepe, a bag of kettle corn and some Chinese food. It sounds like a lot, but we only got one of each and shared**... and I'm pregnant), all three of us went home fat and happy.






**Okay, okay, so maybe I ate most of the crepe moi meme, but Cori and Grace ate most of the kettle corn.

6.04.2007

Tide Pools

On Saturday morning, we went with our friends the C* family to the tide pools off Abalone Cove. These are not the kind of tide pools that are set up in tanks and have paid admission. These are the real deal. It was a bit of a hike down to the shore, and then we spent a while exploring. Bishop wisely advised us to get a sitter for Grace, and we were glad we did. Not only did it save us from having to carry her around for most of the excursion, but we got to have a day date. Saturday, they had extreme tides, so the low tides were really low and the high tides came in fast and tall. As you can see, we are definitely entrenched in the Southern California climate phenom. known as June Gloom. Its very foggy and overcast most of the day. Hence the grey skies and grey waters.


We saw star fish, sea slugs, crabs, sea urchins, anemone, muscles and clams. There are octopus that hide in the rocks, but the water was too choppy to fish them out.The sea slug. There were hundreds of these guys.


The rock formations along the shoals.
The tide coming in... and the boys coming out.